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Fall of my Life and Yard

Fall is beautiful in my backyard—my favorite time of year. I love the changing leaves and stormy weather, the crisp, not quite biting air. I enjoy the one night we “gain back” an hour.  I sacrifice my early runs and long workouts; in exchange, I embrace a warm fire and thick blankets of fleece.  I admire nearly neon yellows, oranges, reds, and light remaining greens on our apricot trees. In my yard, the fig leaves, golden brown are like flags so heavy they need strong winds to fly, but the apricot leaves are light and tiny they flutter with gentle breezes.

This should be the favorite time of my life, the autumn years, but I find myself meditative. Is this what fall is about? Do I stop making memories and spend my quiet nights reflective and melancholy? I assumed that would be the winter of my life, when I would be frail or infirm that I would sit and reflect for hours. Instead, I find myself at the computer reconnecting with former friends and lovers and I reminisce. I talk with my daughters, their comments open the floodgates, and my memories pour out.

I recall eternal study sessions and late-night donut-runs at UCLA , where I spent evenings reading until my dorm-mates needed a break at 11:45 pm, when we strolled down Hilgard Ave. to the Donut Shop on Westwood Blvd. The tiny, three-bar stool bakery, made amazing donuts, not the heavy Crispy Crème donuts, but light and flakey, yet substantial.  At midnight, any unsold donuts went for two dollars, stuffed into a waxy paper bag and devoured before we wandered back to the dorm. I sampled the donuts, but my dorm-mates were three guys who inhaled the sack. This, along with the ever-present coffee available for students, was enough to keep us going for another two or three hours of studying. This was the time in my life when I paid no attention to how much caffeine (or donuts) I ingested. Coffee at midnight? No problem. Today, seriously? I cut myself off at 3 pm.

On alternate weeknights, I ran. Less smog, less traffic, and fresh air (rare in L.A.), as I jogged the perimeter of the campus with any available friend, who could stand a break from the all-encompassing studying. We ran a course up Hilgard to Sunset, weaving through the campus, dodging the sprinklers that would randomly erupt on the field, past parties on fraternity row, and back home past the hospital and botanical gardens.  Funny, I found my route here—of course, everything is available online. http://magazine.ucla.edu/depts/happenings/ucla_running_routes.pdf

Some nights, particularly on Friday or Saturday, I buried myself in the anatomy lab—who would ever do that? However, it was quiet and peaceful—just a 150 dead bodies and me. I concentrated on video clips and no one (save a few crazed medical students) visited there on Friday nights. My evening out was a weeknight at Royce Hall for the senior music or dance recitals. I attended weekly concerts by a vocalist, organist, pianist, flutist, dancer, or actor or whatever poor senior soul needed to perform for an hour to graduate, and they provided me grounding and serenity that I needed to cope with an insane school of 40,000+ students.

So, my youngest daughter, now a music major about the age I was, describes her weekends—study sessions that begin at 8 or 9 in the evening which last until the early hours of the morning, followed by early morning classes. Weekends spent at the school in a practice room, weekend shifts working as a concert assistant, parties with other music majors, bike rides and workouts around the campus, regular haunts for coffee and vegetarian food, I smile at the springtime of her life, while I cry at the fall of my own. Samantha is making magnificent memories. She will have much to describe on her computer in the future.

Ode to an Old Couch

It was in the first year of my “starter marriage” that my husband and I made the substantial purchase of bed, couch, and dining room set. Our prospect of owning “real furniture” was exciting, albeit we lived in a rental apartment. Therefore, when we selected our meager furnishings, we took this task seriously. Who knew how long we would be sitting on this furniture? 5 years? 10 years? Longer?

The couch was long, a full nine feet, with a multitude of pillows, in a straight-back modern style. The fern pattern in chintz fabric was trendy then, done in 1970s colors of blue and brown, and fit perfectly in our tiny apartment. It became my bed many nights over the next year as my husband spent his evenings at the hospital. I drifted off as television channels slowly shut down, one by one until nothing save snow was left on our 12 inch black and white TV. Some nights I listened to the radio and read Stephen King or Michael Creighton, which meant I got no sleep at all. Every sound in the apartment exacerbated my elevated heart rate because there is nothing like reading a horror story before bed. Two years later, older but barely wiser, my “starter marriage” dissolved. I got the household furnishings; he got the car.

The couch crowded out my even tinier apartment, which could not accommodate such a beast, and the blue-brown colors clashed with the lime-green shag carpet. It was a miserable look, but there were no reality shows back in 1981 that could fix this problem. Even in my next house, similar shades of green (trending toward olive) shag rug covered the floors of the turn-of-the-century craftsman, I shoved the couch into a back bedroom. Finally, after being ignored for over four years, the couch was moved to the living room of our new home with my new husband; but, not for long, as within three years we found another place, a larger home to accommodate our growing family, with even worse carpeting in a hideous orange hue. We moved anyway.

For the next five years, the blue-brown couch sat on wall-to-wall ginger-colored carpeting as my husband and I removed “cottage cheese” off the ceiling, wallpaper off the walls, linoleum off the kitchen floors, and eventually the rest of the rug throughout the house. Finally, after years, we enjoyed the couch, but the problem was the couch was too long and fit better in the living room, while our family congregated in the kitchen and family room. On holidays, children and grandparents visited on the couch; on occasional sleepovers, the couch served as futons, and with three-year olds, the cushions became “hideouts,” but eventually our family neglected it for the leather model by the television.

Until recently, that is. Our youngest daughter moved to her college apartment and wanted the sofa, as it matched her tasteful tan carpet. Getting it through the door of the second floor apartment meant Sam and her dad climbed onto the roof and angled it in, but they managed. At the end of that school year, the ingenuity of the college students moved the couch, again, to another place—a five-bedroom house with five fellow music majors. The couch hosted many a concert (all classical music performances) and all the requisite revelry that goes with being in college. Now, in Sam’s third college home, the couch resides in the center of her living room, surrounded by pizza boxes and wine and sheet music and musical instruments. I visited recently, sat on the couch and sank to the floor—the cushions barely respond, the springs are shot, the fabric is thread bare, and stuffing is showing, but the college kids do not mind.

They also do not know this story, so this is for them. Just as I read recently that furniture can be recycled, wood chips reclaimed from wood furnishings, cotton, stuffing, and other fabrics reused, little is tossed in the landfill. My heart smiled at the thought that this old couch and its elements can be recovered or restored like memories.